Sexual wellbeing
Relationship Satisfaction Check
A private, 7-question reflection — based on the validated Relationship Assessment Scale — on how satisfied you feel in your relationship right now. You'll get a simple score and a prompt for what's worth talking about. It's a reflection, not a verdict, and nothing you enter leaves your device.
This is a reflection, not a verdict. One score can't capture a whole relationship — it just shows how you're feeling right now and what might be worth talking about.
Relationship satisfaction check
Based on the validated Relationship Assessment Scale, reproduced here for private reflection. This is general information, not a diagnosis or advice about your relationship. One score can't capture everything — treat it as a prompt for reflection and conversation.
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What this reflects, and what it doesn't
The Relationship Assessment Scale captures how satisfied you feel across seven angles — whether your needs are met, your overall contentment, how things compare, whether you ever wish you weren't in it, met expectations, love, and problems. Together they give a rounded snapshot rather than a single gut reaction.
What it isn't is a diagnosis, a compatibility test, or a prediction. It can't tell you what to do, and it can't weigh the things a number never captures — history, context, what your partner feels, or how much a rough patch is really about stress or a life event. Satisfaction moves over time, and a lower score is a snapshot of now, not a fixed truth.
Read the result as a conversation starter: it shows where satisfaction feels thin so you can reflect on why, and decide whether it's worth talking through — with your partner, or with a counselor if that would help.
Why it's here
Relationships and sexual wellbeing are linked
Relationship satisfaction and sexual wellbeing feed each other — which is why this sits alongside our sexual-health screens.
Connection shapes desire
Feeling close, safe, and satisfied supports desire and arousal; conflict, resentment, or distance often dampen them. Low desire can be about the relationship as much as the body.
Sex shapes the relationship
Sexual difficulties — pain, mismatched desire, performance worry — can strain a relationship in turn. Naming them is often the first step to easing both.
Talking is the lever
Most of what this surfaces improves with honest conversation. If that feels stuck, couples or sex therapy is designed to help — it's a skill, not a failure.
Health is part of it
Stress, sleep, mood, medications, and untreated infections all affect how you feel in a relationship and in bed. Some of the fix is medical, and very treatable.
Next steps
Related checks
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Sexual function (FSFI-6)
A broader screen across desire, arousal, lubrication, orgasm, satisfaction, and pain.
Talk to a partner
A calm, ready-made script for raising sexual health or a diagnosis with a partner.
Find testing & care
Clinics, at-home kits, and free options if a health concern is part of the picture.
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Where this comes from
The seven dimensions and the scoring reflect the validated Relationship Assessment Scale (Hendrick, 1988), a generic measure of relationship satisfaction widely used in research and counseling. The guidance on what the result means and how relationships and sexual wellbeing connect follows the American Psychological Association and Cleveland Clinic. We present it as a private reflection, not a clinical assessment.
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Data & references
- Hendrick SS. A generic measure of relationship satisfaction (Relationship Assessment Scale). Journal of Marriage and Family, 1988https://www.jstor.org/stable/352430
- American Psychological Association: Happy couples & relationship healthhttps://www.apa.org/topics/marriage-relationships
- Cleveland Clinic: Couples counselinghttps://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/24051-couples-counseling
EasySTD is an information and comparison directory, not a healthcare provider. This tool is general information based on a published, validated scale: it is not medical advice, a diagnosis, or relationship counseling, and it does not create any professional relationship. If things feel hard, a licensed therapist or counselor can help.
Good to Know
Relationship satisfaction & the RAS: frequently asked questions
What the RAS is, what your score means, whether a low score is a bad sign, taking it as a couple, and how private it is.
What is the Relationship Assessment Scale (RAS)?
The RAS is a brief, validated seven-item questionnaire developed by Susan Hendrick and published in 1988 to measure general satisfaction in a romantic relationship. It asks about how well a partner meets your needs, your overall satisfaction, how the relationship compares to others, whether you ever wish you weren't in it, how well it has met your expectations, how much you love your partner, and how many problems there are. It's one of the most widely used relationship-satisfaction measures in research and counseling. It gives a snapshot of how you feel, not a diagnosis of the relationship.
What does my score mean?
Each of the seven items is scored 1 to 5 (two are reverse-scored so that higher always means more satisfied), giving a total from 7 to 35 — and often an average from 1 to 5. Higher scores reflect greater satisfaction; in research, average item scores around 4 or above are typical of satisfied relationships, while lower scores suggest more dissatisfaction. There's no official pass/fail line, and one number can't capture a whole relationship. Think of it as a reflection: a low score is an invitation to look at what's behind it and, often, to talk about it — not a verdict that something is doomed.
Is a low score a sign my relationship is failing?
No. A low score means that, right now, several things you were asked about feel less satisfying than you'd like — which is information, not a sentence. Satisfaction naturally rises and falls with stress, life stage, health, communication, and countless other factors, and many relationships move through low patches and come back stronger. What a low score does usefully is point to where the dissatisfaction sits, so you can reflect on it, raise it with your partner, or, if it would help, talk with a couples counselor. It's a starting point for a conversation, not a prediction.
Should both partners take it?
It can be illuminating if you both do, separately, and then compare — differences in where you each land often reveal the things most worth talking about. But it's just as valid to take it on your own to clarify how you're feeling before a conversation. Either way, it works best as a prompt for honest, low-pressure discussion rather than as a scoreboard. If talking feels hard or stuck, a couples therapist is trained to help exactly with that.
How does this relate to sexual health?
Relationship satisfaction and sexual wellbeing are closely linked. Dissatisfaction, conflict, and feeling disconnected can lower desire and sexual satisfaction, and sexual problems can strain a relationship in turn — the two feed each other. That's why relationship quality is worth reflecting on alongside things like desire, arousal, and comfort. If low desire or a sexual concern is part of the picture, our sexual-wellbeing screens can help you look at that side too.
Is what I enter private?
Yes. This tool runs entirely in your browser. Your answers are scored on your own device and are never sent to a server, saved, or shared — close the tab and they're gone. It's general educational information based on a published, validated scale; it can't diagnose anything or replace talking with your partner or a counselor.
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